Null Stern Swinger's Party

I was lazing on the couch listening to Solveig's Song from Peer Gynt, and thinking further on this censorship thing, how twisted it can be even from the inside of social groups that seemingly need to value concepts of anti-censorship in order to continue practicing their own activities. Recently I received an invitation, it was sent purely on a box I had ticked on an adult swinging site profile that promoted a five star swinging party.

My first consideration of these five star or a-list swinger's parties was whilst watching one of Louis Theroux's Weird Weekend documentaries. Louis is the son of Paul Theroux, in case anyone was wondering about the name. Anyhow, Louis decides not to go to one of these parties because it seems as if he'd be pandering to a type of people who are at odds with his own appearance, but because of his "celebrity" status and the chance to have their party broadcast on television, the party organisers were willing to make an exception.

So I get this invitation. Now I've been to enough swinger's parties to know what they are like and generally what to expect. I know that if I want my less then carved body structure to be accepted as sexy then I shouldn't buy into body bigotry. Not that I have anything against personal taste, and I certainly have no issue with people establishing their own environment to cater for that, but what I do find issue with is when I come across statements like this:

Why??, because we are fussy, we vet everyone (details on profile), we are very much into QUALITY rather than QUANTITY ,....

....AND we ONLY "GENUINELY" cater for people in their 20s/30s ....(unlike ALL the other venues who let ANYONE /ANY AGE /ANY SIZE through their doors...hence you are confonted by a LOT of people in their 40s/50s /60s who just shouldnt be seen naked)

This particular party charges about four times as much as a regular swinger's party. Many other swinger's party have couple entry free nights whereas this party works on some kind of decreasing scale of pay depending on how many nights you return and eventually you can attend for nothing.

My issue lies with their opinion that the majority of people in their 40s/50s/60s shouldn't be seen with their clothes off. It would have been fine for me if they had of stopped at only catering for crowds in their 20s/30s. Even as someone in my thirties I prefer parties where I can meet people of most ages but wouldn't deny some of specifying a function to their tastes - but at regular swinger's parties they don't make a point of saying that you'll experience all ranges of age and body type not just a Frat of vacuous twenty-somethings. I'm not saying twenty-somethings are vacuous, I'm merely point out that regular swinger's events don't endeavor to insult a proportion of the population as a promotional gimmick.

I had a look at the photos that were included in the invite and I can tell you it didn't look that great to me. It wasn't to my personal taste, some of the people in the photos just looked liked pedants who not only would judge a book by its cover but also probably never have really read a decent book, therefore, not for me.

So this where censorship transposes into a hybrid of its own rudiment, where despite obvious hypocrisies something more ignorant and tangible lurks; V.I.P, very insular person. It's fine that you might not want to play with someone who is older or of a conflicting body shape to what you are attracted to but should they then not be allowed to occupy the same space as you? Sexual reciprocity doesn't have to be something that restrains principle freedoms of individual opinion, it can be instead a great way to allow for those opinions to have functionality in the living world and also a place in humanity rather then a means upon which to lock ideas and influences up.

To avoid a "this is my opinion, that is your opinion, life will be what it may and then we die" kind of dichotomy I lean then on concepts of fluxus and its preference for a collective journey into oblivion made up of indeterminate individual perceptions expressed, communicated or better still engaged in the ongoing assiduous processes between mortal fixtures, intermitting factors such as birth and death.